Sunday, April 10, 2011

Our Life in Songs and Storybooks

Hopefully I'll figure out a cooler way to let you know who's writing what but I have always been more of a talker (some would say) so for now, I'll warn you when it isn't me. This one belongs to Dana. :)

I am a children’s librarian, so it comes as no surprise that my son loves books. What does surprise me is how frequently he communicates using lines directly from a book we’ve recently read. Example 1: We’re reading bedtime books and Easton yawns. He looks at me and says, “That was not a yawn. I was stretching.” (If you’re confused, read Don’t Let the Pigeon Stay Up Late by Mo Willems.) Example 2: Easton has a semi-large closet. The light is rarely on in his closet, but there are a number of toys in there. He’ll frequently go in there and say, “In the dark. In the dark. Could you, would you, in the dark?” (Please read Green Eggs and Ham by Dr. Seuss if you don’t recognize this line.) Example 3: The three of us were lounging in the living room and Easton randomly says, “I love my whole family!” (Thank you, We Love You Little Critter by Mercer Mayer.)

To date, Easton can spell his name, recite his address, and rattle off the seven days of the week…in song. When he’s not reciting lines from storybooks, he’s singing. He busts out in song randomly throughout the day--at the kitchen table, in the car, when he’s playing. Sometimes it’s a made up song, other times it’s one he’s learned at day care of that David or I have taught him. I wonder how far I can get him through his academic career by turning essential (and nonessential) information into a song?

If Glee or High School Musical ever does a casting call for a toddler, we’re there. (I’ve never actually seen either show, but that’s pretty much my life on a daily basis, isn’t it?)

Saturday, April 9, 2011

A Bumpdate from Max

You can find the first Bumpdate from Max here Nonlinear. We won't rehash the hospital stay this time, suffice it to say that it still blows my mind and the pictures still make me tear up.
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But let's talk about Max and "The Bump". A little over a month ago we went back to the Ear, Nose and Throat Specialist yet again for a check up. He was so pleased with the progress that he didn't require us to schedule a return trip. And then the heavens opened up and the Hallelujah Chorus rained down it snowed again. This mama was pretty excited. And then I thought about it. I have been taking care of this bump for nearly six months. The task can best be described as time-consuming, a bit daunting at times, and terribly frustrating. Continuing to keep it in check has proven to be much easier. We're still doing warm massages once, maybe twice daily if needed, and while it isn't 100% gone, the progress we've seen keeps us optimistic.

But let's be honest, what you really want is proof. Here are some pictures from last night. Also known as The First Night That We Played Outside After A Really Long Winter.

Not only was it the maiden voyage of spring in the back yard, but we are breaking in some new boots. It made for some treacherous walking, but two very excited little men.


Max is very much relieved to not be stuck in my lap 3 or 4 times a day with a warm washcloth, and the TV running to keep him occupied for 20-30 minutes a crack. I'm relieved too. It gives me time to be productive. And blog.


You can hardly tell the bump exists by looking at him from the front. There is still some discoloration, that will probably continue for a while. The area was traumatized pretty good by all of the re-opening to keep it draining. But the important part - the part where his saliva gland uses a duct to drain into his mouth like everyone else - that part seems to be working much better. The issues aren't completely behind us, but we're getting there.

And how does Gage feel about everything? Hard to say, he's busy. Losing his mind. :)



Hopefully soon we'll have Bumpdate of a different variety. The kind that includes a growing baby!! But not from me.

I repeat: not from me.

The other half of Life Between Friends is growing a much cuter bump. We're hoping to catch up next weekend to update some family pictures! Everybody wins.

Friday, April 8, 2011

Parenting: Disheveled Decisions

I've been a little busy lately. In the last two weeks, I have cooked three meals and I haven't run the dishwasher since Monday. There are building block scattered throughout the house, and I have no doubt that they'll be there in the morning. The level of my organized insanity escalated to a new level this week and tonight resulted in a spontaneous effort to grow up the baby.

Let me side trip for a moment and share that while Max will likely end up being our youngest child forevermore, we're trying our hardest not to let him be "the baby". Mentally, I tell myself that maybe someday, there will be another kid or at the very least a dog younger than him. He has not taken a bottle for six months, we force him to use words, say please and thank you, eat food sitting at the table like Gage and suffer the consequences of poor choices. (He is the cutest in time-out. He pouts his sweet bottom lip out and sits where you put him until you welcome him out with hugs.)

Tonight we marched a little further from baby and a little closer to big boy.

Because of my preoccupation with 1000 items on my to-do list:

1: We ran out of diapers. My only option is training pants. Potty training full speed ahead. It really is for the best. The poor boy has terribly sensitive skin so he wears unbleached (read: expensive) diapers. A while back I had grabbed some of the training pants from the brand that works for us (Seventh Generation) and that is what he's wearing at the moment.

2: I can't find any binkies. The binkie gnomes have acquired no fewer than six of them from my house in the last 7-10 days. We are binkie free as of today. I put him to bed tonight and he didn't even cry. That's normal as Max is a rockstar sleeper (and I totally deserve it), but he does have an opinion so it did surprise me. Here's hoping the night proceeds without a hitch. He has not been using a binkie at daycare for quite a while, but he likes to have it in when one is accessible. Its super annoying to have to yank it out of his mouth to understand what he's saying.

3: Also, we went out for pizza tonight. I let my "baby" take a hit out of my Strawberry Dew and we started feeding him fruit snacks before he finished his pizza. But its Friday night. We're tired and the last thing we want to hear is some kid screeching for a "nack! nack!"

Awesome are we.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

The One Thing I Bake

I am not a talented baker. I have been known to cook a decent meal (spaghetti counts, right?) but for some reason, baking and I just don't blend. Or sift? Mix?

However, this recipe and I work well together. I've only screwed it up a couple of times, but its the only baked good I'll volunteer to prepare and take to a potluck, holiday or get together. It was also Gage's birthday dessert of choice yesterday.

Here's the recipe:
Crunchy Caramel Apple Pie

Two things:
1 - I never make my own crust. Props to Pillsbury on that one.
2 - I never put nuts on top.

Try it. If I can do it, you can do it.

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Just Before Bed

Putting Gage to bed this evening was easier than its been in a while. "Hey Gage, go to sleep. When you wake up, you'll be four." Something tells me it could be a short night.
While he was playing this evening I asked him a few questions. Here's how it went down.
Me: Gage, I don't even know how to be a mom to a four year old boy. What things do they like?
Gage: Listening and doing what they're asked.
Me: Well that's helpful. Anything else that they like.
Gage: Yep, their mom and dad.
Me: Awesome! But what kinds of things don't they like?
Gage: Mom, I'm watching Brother Bear.

Off to sleep myself! Here's hoping we can pull of another throw-together birthday party and make his day magical!

Ten on Tuesday. Just Kim. Volume 3.

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Questions for Tuesday, April 5, 2011.

1. What is your ideal date?
Dinner, movie, going for a walk. Having a stomach big enough to eat a good supper and big bag of popcorn combined with enough energy to not fall asleep until we get home. I know, I'm asking a lot.

2. How long does it take you to get ready to go on a date?

It takes longer to brief the babysitter and find my phone. I might take an extra 2 minutes to make sure there isn't any foreign material in my hair.

3. What would you wear on the date?
Jeans, and 2 or 3 shirts to make sure I'm warm in the movie theater. If I'm really feeling fancy, I'll try wearing a necklace or scarf.

4. If you are married, how often do you go on dates?
Not nearly often enough. We probably go out without our kids 4 or 5 times a year and usually its because there's a banquet or event that they shouldn't attend. Can you call that a date? We try to sit down and watch a little TV together a few times a week, and we eat supper together almost every day. We also spend lots of quality time together M-F 9-5:30.

5. What was your worst date?
Nothing really stands out as horrible. Prom as a sophomore taking my freshman boyfriend was terribly awkward, but we were so un-matured that I'll chalk it up to inexperience. He's a great guy and we were much better suited as friends after we dated.

6. Do you/Did you kiss on your first date?
I can't even remember - how's that for an answer? Ha! Here's the deal. Jack and I met while running for a State FFA Office and at the end of the three days, were both selected as officers which meant we weren't technically supposed to date. Long story short, it didn't happen that way and ended up on lots of "group dates" the first year, at least when we were off campus. So I honestly think his sister came with us on what would have probably been our first date. Its kind of comical now. Then, not so much.

7. If married, how long before you knew he/she was the one?

About three days.

8. Do you prefer day dates or night dates?
If I can swing a day date, I am all over it. Especially if I can make it last 2 meals and still get to bed early enough to not be tired in the morning. Sleep is a precious commodity around here.

9. How old were you when you first were allowed to date?

Whatever the number, it was too young. I'm so thankful that I don't have girls. How nerve wracking! I think I went on my first date when I was a freshman in high school. Anybody care to dispute that? Ha!

10. What is the most embarrassing moment you have had on a date?
I may or may not have fallen asleep during a James Bond movie once. A long time ago. Way before my excuse for falling asleep was, "I haven't had a good night's sleep since April 4th, 2007."

Monday, April 4, 2011

Ready or Not

Preparations are underway to start raising a four year old, even though we have barely learned to nourish the needs of a three year old. I have been a little nostalgic about the ordeal. I mean, a three year old is still practically a baby. But a four year old? They go to school, look like big kids, dress like big kids and talk like grownups. And mine? He cooks his own dinner, and tonight he started potty training his little brother.
Our household has changed every little bit as you would expect. I'd like to share a few of my favorite "duh" moments as a soon-to-be and new mom. Memories that he'll probably make fun of me for someday when he understands.

School Bus. The day before I went into labor, I rode with about 30 of my middle and high school students on a school bus three hours to Sturgis for an FFA contest, stood on my feet all day directing teenagers through a floriculture contest and hopped back on the bus for three more hours. Similar to a trip I took on a bus the previous week and a trip that I planned to take a week later.

All-Nighter. The week before Gage's arrival, the FFA chapter hosted an all night lock-in. I stayed all night, but had to wear slippers because my feet were swollen so bad they wouldn't fit in my shoes. Some fine students wrote instructions on the white board in case I went into labor.
1 - Find Jack
2 - Boil towels
3 - Call ambulance
They even located a bucket and mop in case my water broke. So thoughtful.

Nesting. I had heard of these crazy cleaning binges, sometimes lasting days or weeks prior to the arrival of the baby to prepare of their arrival. Mine lasted 90 minutes. Here's a bit of a timeline to assist:
April 5th - Full day teaching at school. Doctor's appointment where I hear the following: [Baby hasn't dropped and you really haven't made much progress. I wouldn't hold your breath for an early delivery and if you do go into labor, it will be a long affair.] Then we went to Maunday Thursday church service. My back hurt because I had "ridden a bus the day before" and I waddled like an emperor penguin. Home to (little did I know) nest for 90 minutes. Just enough time to clear out the nursery and vacuum. So tired I went to bed. 45 minutes later, water breaks. 6 hours (and now April 6th) later, Baby A is here!

Hospital  Bag. It turns out you can pack those ahead of time. I didn't. So while Jack's on the phone with the hospital and I'm trying to convince him to go back to bed, ("Its nothing. I just want to sleep") he's also throwing things in a bag. We had some useful items. Also, some terribly interesting choices.

Substitute Teacher. Gage was born on Good Friday, or what was to be day one of a very important four day weekend in which I prepared my classroom and home for maternity leave. Suffice it to say that I hadn't written a single substitute lesson plan. Meaning...I spent all weekend in the hospital throwing things together. We went home on Sunday afternoon (Easter Sunday) and Monday evening I went into the school to work. Nice planning. I worked closely with the substitute, as well as chaperones and students to plan a trip to State FFA Convention and our chapter banquet in the first few weeks of his life.
The Name Game. We hadn't selected a name for the baby and had convinced ourselves our firstborn would be of the female variety. He would have been Delaney. Instead we looked at the list and decided we needed to spend time with him before we could make the call. After three days we selected Gage McCoy and it fits perfectly, even though he sometimes wants to be called Lester.

Basically, I'm telling you that while we are 'fly by the seat of our pants' people, in the great wide world of parenting, it is important to think ahead a little bit. Gage is exactly what we needed at exactly the right time. Its not what we planned or ever dreamed would come our way, but we wouldn't change it for the world. In my opinion, everyone needs a kid like Gage. Head-strong and in charge from the very beginning. There's no sluffing off, no forgetting he's there, no personal agendas. Also, he requires very little sleep and recently learned what "balls" are, and that they are not to be kicked.

When Wednesday rolls around, I will pull this little man out of bed, kiss his beautiful four year old face, send him to daycare with treats, and later that afternoon, celebrate with a "hot dog and apple pie" birthday party at his request. He is amazing.